Most of us tend to live under the illusion that God wouldn’t intentionally lead us into such pain [of loss] —especially multiple times. We can’t make any sense of why the people and things we love must literally and figuratively experience the finality of death…If we embrace these losses for the severe mercies they are, God does a profound work in us and through us in ways that are similar to what the apostle Paul describes as ‘death is at work in us, but life is at work in you’ (2 Corinthians 4:12).”

Pete Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Leader, pg. 281.